How It Started

Hello Warriors,

I want you to imagine waking up one day and realizing that someone has been watching you. Not for a day. Not for a week. But for years. Watching you, following you, studying your life, and there is nothing you can do to make it stop.

That was my reality.

He wasn't an ex-partner. We never dated. We were never even friends. He was simply a coworker I had met more than 20 years earlier. In 2022, he found me online. We exchanged a brief conversation, and almost immediately, I sensed something was wrong with him. I did what we are all told to do. I was polite, and then I blocked him. I believed that would be the end. Instead, it was the beginning.

He began calling and texting me repeatedly. He harassed me across every social media platform. He began harassing my family members. He found out where I lived and would sit for hours outside my home. He followed me when I was out with my family. He vandalized my vehicle. He vandalized my family member's vehicles. He found out where I worked and began repeatedly calling me at work. He then followed me to work, sat for hours and watch me at work, and then physically tried to enter my workplace. He posted thousands of disturbing YouTube videos professing his love for me describing a relationship that did not exist. He created a website dedicated to me, threatened to harm my husband and threatened to abduct me and start a new life with me.

My world became smaller. My routines became calculated. My sense of safety disappeared. I stopped feeling free in my own life and began living in constant survival mode.

When he started appearing at my workplace, I no longer felt safe, and eventually, I lost the job I loved. Not because I had done anything wrong, but because stalking doesn’t just steal your peace, it steals your stability, your livelihood, and your sense of identity. During this time, I discovered a painful truth: stalking victims are often left to navigate fear, trauma, and complex systems largely on their own. Clear guidance is rare, and support can be difficult to find. I also saw firsthand that many workplaces are unprepared when stalking follows an employee to work, leaving victims to carry the burden alone.

Then one day, something shifted inside me.

I was done living in fear. I enrolled in my first self-defense class and later began boxing. With every technique and every punch, fear loosened its grip. Strength replaced helplessness. Confidence returned, one breath and one movement at a time. What began as learning to protect my body became a way to reclaim my voice, my identity, and my life. I was no longer just surviving. I was rebuilding.

That journey is why I created Safety Warrior Mama™. A survivor-led platform dedicated to providing stalking resources, safety education, and empowerment in one place. Because no one should have to navigate stalking alone. Because safety should not be a privilege; it should be a right. And because survivors deserve more than survival. They deserve to feel strong, supported, and safe again.

Today, I am not just as a survivor, I’m an advocate, an educator, and a warrior. My mission is to transform fear into strength, isolation into support, and lived experience into change.

This is Safety Warrior Mama™ 💪