How It Started

Hello Warriors,

I want you to imagine waking up one day and realizing that someone has been watching you. Not for a day. Not for a week. But for years. Watching you, following you, studying your life, and there is nothing you can do to make it stop.

That was my reality.

He wasn't an ex-partner. We never dated. We were never even friends. He was simply a coworker I had met more than 20 years earlier. In 2022, he found me online. We exchanged a brief conversation, and almost immediately, I sensed something was wrong with him. I did what we are all told to do. I was polite, and then I blocked him. I believed that would be the end. Instead, it was the beginning.

He began calling and texting me repeatedly. He harassed me across every social media platform. When I blocked his number and accounts, he impersonated other individuals to bypass the blocks. He began harassing my family members and I began noticing him appearing in places where I was with my family. My vehicle was vandalized during this period, which added to my growing sense of fear. A peace order was put in place to protect me, but he would breach the conditions repeatedly.

He found out where I worked and began repeatedly calling my workplace, appearing near my workplace, watching me while I worked, and at one point attempted to enter the building. I no longer felt safe at work, and eventually, I lost the job I loved. He then began posting thousands of disturbing YouTube videos professing his love for me describing a relationship that did not exist. He created a website dedicated to me, threatened to harm my husband and made disturbing statements suggesting he wanted to abduct me and start a new life together.

My world became smaller. My routines became calculated. My sense of safety disappeared. I stopped feeling free in my own life and began living in constant survival mode.

During this time, I discovered a painful truth: stalking victims are often left to navigate fear, trauma, and complex systems largely on their own. Clear guidance is rare, and support can be difficult to find. I also saw firsthand that many workplaces are unprepared when stalking follows an employee to work, leaving victims to carry the burden alone.

Then one day, something shifted inside me.

I was done living in fear. I enrolled in my first self-defense class and later began boxing. With every technique and every punch, fear loosened its grip. Strength replaced helplessness. Confidence returned, one breath and one movement at a time. What began as learning to protect my body became a way to reclaim my voice, my identity, and my life. I was no longer just surviving. I was rebuilding.

That journey is why I created Safety Warrior Mama™. A survivor-led platform dedicated to providing stalking resources, safety education, and empowerment in one place. Because no one should have to navigate stalking alone. Because safety should not be a privilege; it should be a right. And because survivors deserve more than survival. They deserve to feel strong, supported, and safe again.

Today, I am not just as a survivor, I’m an advocate, an educator, and a warrior. My mission is to transform fear into strength, isolation into support, and lived experience into change.

This is Safety Warrior Mama™ 💪